Drop-In Workshop December 2016

Love for who needs it.
 
I think this time right now, no matter what you believe and think and feel, is difficult and complicated. It can be hard in big and small ways whether we’re looking at national news, global news, or considering the holidays and end of year stressors for students, teachers, working professionals. We’re getting into winter and that can be an even harder time to be homeless or feel alone, or even get the car started or get on a bicycle. It can be a good time too – and I hope it is for you right now.

This was a tough week for me. I needed some healing love, and let that guide my Free Drop-In Writing Workshop at The Cabin this month.
 
I feel that when hard times hit or approach, acting with love in any of its forms can be an amazing remedy. We read some wonderful love letters by Nick Jaina, from his beautiful book Get It While You Can, and used those as inspiration to write our own love letters to someone needing one – in any form or genre we like.
 
Nick is a musician, songwriter, composer and a writer in many different forms. His book is made up of love letters he never sent, the story of what happened to him when his guitar was stolen and he went on a ten day silent meditation, stories on the road, and intoxicating how-to-manuals.
 
Here's the letter we read aloud and discussed (with a few others passed around in a packet):

From Get It While You Can
By Nick Jaina
 
Dear ____________,
 
Do you know about quantum entanglement? It’s when two particles interact in such a special way that even if you separate them, their movements will continue to affect one another. You could be in Los Angeles with one of these particles and I could be in New York, and if your particle spins a certain way, my particle will spin that way, too. This connection happens instantaneously, which is to say that it’s faster than the speed of light.
 
This is such a remarkable scientific fact that I can’t understand why everyone isn’t talking about it every day. This is more important than health care or algebra or the housing market. You could say that our desire to bridge distance is what is killing us. More and more, we want to get places faster and we are burning ourselves up to make that happen. It doesn’t make any sense. If we are already connected to everything, we can stay right where we are.

​There are cords around your heart connecting you to different emotions and places and people. You can’t see them physically, but that doesn’t matter. When you love something, your heart ties itself around it, like it’s tying a string around something it doesn’t want to forget. There is a cord that runs from my heart to yours, for example, and it goes right through the center of the earth. It is a long, stretchy cord. Sometimes it has slack in it and I can’t feel your pull and I wonder if you’re still there, or if you’ve slipped out of it somehow. Other times it tightens and I can feel every movement and I know what you’re feeling without you even telling me. This cord you’ve passed through your body. It is an interloper and it breaks all the rules about human society, and maybe that’s why nobody wants to talk about it. We don’t ever have to talk about it, but still, I promise you, that cord is there.
 
You don’t even have to wait for the achingly slow currents of light to bring you these messages. They are already there.

Yours, presently,
 
Nick

Nick reading from his book.

We talked about what we noticed, how our bodies, emotions and heads reacted, and what specifics in this piece made our bodies/hearts/heads respond. Then we discussed love letters.
 
What’s important in a love letter? To have an effective love letter, you need: _________.
What have you always wanted to see in a love letter but never have?

We came up with a few answers. Good love letters should (be):

Disclosing something
Longing
Show displeasure at the sender's absence
Honesty, believability, vulnerability
Passionate
Share a language
Direct

Then we explored who should be the subject of our letter: 
 
Close your eyes. Relax your body, mind. Focus on your breath.
Who is the person that needs a love letter from you today?
When I ask that question, who do you see?
Maybe it’s you. Maybe it’s someone close to you. Someone you love.
Someone you don’t like. Maybe it’s someone that’s not human.
Maybe it’s not a living being at all, as far as you know.
Maybe a few people come up to your mind. Good. That’s great.
Maybe one. That’s fantastic.
Maybe no one. That’s okay, too. It will come to you.

Open your eyes. Write a few notes of the person or people you saw, if you like.
…Now I want to give you some time to consider this person (or nonperson).
To really give yourself a good sense of who they are and what they need.
If you haven’t thought of your person yet, you can use this time to do that.
You can walk around the room, leave the room, doodle/take notes at your seat, just sit…
As you do, consider who this person (or nonperson) is to you.
Your history. How they make you feel. What they make you think about.
In a meditative way, let details about them rise up and wash over you.
If you don’t know them, consider their situation, their life. And how you might relate.
 
Then we took some notes:
 
Take down some notes about what you felt or saw, what washed over you, ideas that came to mind, no matter how trivial or unrelated they might seem. Even if you can’t possibly see how what you’re writing relates to this person, get it down.
 
We wrote our first letter:
 
This first letter, I invite you to write as more or less a straight letter you might send someone in the mail, whatever that means to you. If you want to jump into a different genre right away you can, but we’ll play with form very soon, and this may help get all the everything out in a more flowing way.
 
Before you write, take a moment to imagine this person again.
What they need. What you need.
What your love for them feels like, smells like, tastes like, all the senses.
What it reminds you of, what it makes you think about.
What concrete details and examples might make them laugh or smile or feel warm.
Then, without stopping to think, write your love letter to this person in need of love.
 
We took about 15 minutes to write our first letter, and then we rewrote:
 
Now that you’ve written this letter in one giant breath, look it over.
Enjoy it, make discoveries, find passages you like.
As you read, ask yourself: could this translate into a different form?
Can you find poems in this letter? A story, essay, play, song, comic, text and image?
Something else?
Explore what that might be. Surprise yourself.
Our love letters to people can be to ourselves, to someone human or non, who we know or don’t, who we like or love or don’t. They can also take any writing form we choose.
See what you can find in yours, and write that.
Or maybe you’d prefer to write something new in that new form, to someone else.
Or maybe you’d prefer to write a different letter, to the same person or someone new.

Write whatever you need right now.
Love yourself by writing something you love as a way of loving someone else.
 
We wrote this new version in about 15 minutes, and then shared, discussed.
 
Thanks everyone, for writing!
​Perhaps, as added risk and act of love, you can decide to give this to the person it’s for.
Or maybe, like Nick, you’ll never send it, but do something else with it.
Any choice is okay.